What did I do?
While I really wanted to do "J" -write a blog post and link to it on facebook, I figured that was kind of crazy... and just me wanting to have more hits to the blog (being honest here folks).
In the end I totally signed out to lurk his profile... debated heavily with myself the pros and cons of mentioning a crush, and ended up sending a kindly message stating my surprise at the couple's separation- and (in a nod to the knowledge that half the guys on the site are married trolls) said if I wasn't supposed to have seen his profile I could pretend like nothing happened.
There's more to the story, but really what it comes down to is there are a whole lot of lonely people out there... even in relationships.
What can we do as community to help eachother not feel so isolated?
Seriously. I'm asking for myself too.